I think this is where around the age of 16-18, they would get unfiltered and in the event they get into the no-no content (more on the level of corn) you can discuss it first and let them continue if on satisfactory level.
I think this balances the necessary freedom kids need to receive before adulthood (eg. after college/high school of adulthood).
but perhaps you can let them continue themselves in plarforms where their ToS states they should be 13 and above but again I would still use parental controls in a privacy respecting manner at that state until they turn the range of age I specified but yeah
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I reckon 17-18 is a little late, but that age is certainly up for debate, I am not a child development expert. Pre-teens should not have unfiltered internet access
Yeah itâs at least my thought process on this and what PD says but @ThePrivacyDad is the expert and has experience so I would certainly use and listen to their advise since they have that experience.
I only remember that as a kid, even though I may have gotten an email early (gmail), I was never allowed to be on Facebook until 13, from there it was mostly smooth sailing.
but to be honest around the early Gen Z generations weâre lucky we managed to Dodge this horrible state of social media/messengers is now and I must admit I have discovered the corn before I turned 18 (& Admittedly to be fair this was before youtube got stricter with content not being made for kids/partial 18+) with my unfederated access but fortunately not to the point of crippling addiction or whatever it may be. But I also understand late Gen Z to Gen A (at least most or some) are not so lucky than the early Gen Zs when it comes to this
(if im being honest what I need to break out of my addiction now is gacha games xD)
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the only massively affective parental controls Ive seen is the one for iOS and while many dont like this this is mainly due to the browsers all being webkit based. with Family Link on Android being a closest second because they disable changing the DNS within chromium based browsers and you vet what apps your child downloads and this is only on phones. Computers, especially Linux are still seriously lacking in effective parental controls. Every other parental control option ive seen is DNS based and you do not need to be super technical to bypass these either.
Especially among teens once they find a workaround it spreads like wildfire As an older Gen Zer when i was in high school everyone was using proxies or VPNs extensions to byass the youtube blocks and when those were getting cracked down upon I was putting me peers on Invidious
I am more technical than my parents and have had to manage THEIR devices for them and my siblings are also parents and know jack shit about tech . People here sometimes vastly overestimate average persons level of tech literacy. You can be great parent in terms of managing your kids in healthy ways but if you dont know how to help your child because its out of your scope you cant necessarily say they are negligent
I see the slippery slope but at the same time I am very anti-porn because it has seriously bad effects on anyone consuming and I dont believe it is good for anyone but if people want access to it yeah we should be authorizing who is an adult but then its like What about reddit, twitter or fuck even NSFW content within the fediverse? What about places like Discord or Roblox where they seem innocent on the surface but warcrimes are happening behind the scenes. I grew up as a chronic sexter in niche websites with my peers without my parents ever knowing. I think itâs pretty hard for parents to protect someone from a threat they donât know exists