Best setup to host a Bitcoin+Lightning node alongside a Monero node?

General
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I want to self host my Bitcoin+Lightning Node as well as my Monero node, because this is the only way to get real privacy with these things.

Otherwise all your addresses can easily be linked by the external node.

But I am unsure what is the best hard and software to do it.

I don’t want to just order something like Umbrell because I don’t want to land on more list’s of Crypto owners then necessary.

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The other way I believe is using the right app/service for your crypto needs. Cake Wallet, Proton Wallet, Pheonix Wallet are all fantastic options. I don’t think it’s right to say as a claim that running your own node is the only way to get real privacy.