I make the distinction between real-world reported attacks and theoretical security flaws, because I think it actually does make a huge difference for the end-user, and maybe we just agree to disagree on this point.
If anything, it is the exact opposite. Users rely far too much on what they read in the news and media (including and sometimes especially, youtube) instead of relying on security experts. This makes them far more susceptible to snakeoil. It’d be akin to getting medical information from the news instead of from a doctor.
What developers should concern themselves with mostly doesn’t overlap with what users should concern themselves with.
Developers don’t want users to get attacked. Users don’t want to get attacked.
Many people have an extremely distorted view of what actually matters
I agree, but in precisely the opposite way
The reductive and reactive approach you are presenting here is exactly the kind of thing I’m actively working against. It is damaging and distorts what actually matters here, by focusing on headlines instead of proactivity. What you are describing is the security equivalent of never going to the doctor to get a checkup, but instead only reactively screening yourself for specific illnesses that commonly show up in the news.
threat model
I don’t think most users have ever created a threat model.
Unfortunately, I just see too many security-minded projects cherry-pick theoretical exploits in their competitors to spread fear/uncertainty about,
Describing “theoretical exploits” aka attack vectors is not FUD… That’s part of what doing security analysis looks like.
Validated, real-world reports are far more valuable information in this situation.
This (relying on news reports) is not how scientific inquiry works. Journalists are not scientists. We don’t use news reports to make health decisions, for example, we refer to studies run by experts. Just because a news outlet reports a specific example of someone getting a particularly nasty disease, doesn’t at all mean that that disease is relevant to your health. Maybe it was reported on because of the rarity of the event, even.